Embrace Kindness and Compassion
By: Donna Marston
www.SharingWithOutShame.com
In our communities, language shapes perceptions and attitudes, the words we use affect how we see and treat each other. When we call people dealing with drug addiction or alcoholism, "addicts" or "alcoholics," we add to the stigma they face, which can make them, and their families feel ashamed and isolated. It’s so important to use words that show kindness and understanding.
"People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." Maya Angelou - American memoirist, poet, and civil rights activist
Using terms like "clean" or "dirty" for drug tests sends a judgmental message, as if the person is good or bad. Instead, we should use language that reflects that addiction is a health issue. For example, rather than saying someone is an "addict," we could say "a person with a substance use disorder." This shows that the person is more than their struggle and deserves compassion.
Instead of saying someone is "clean," think about changing your language to a positive statement they are "in recovery" or "making progress." This highlights their hard work to make positive changes in their life.
Families of people with substance use disorders also face their own challenges and can feel judged by others. By using kinder language, we create a more supportive space, allowing them to share their experiences without fear. Phrases like "supporting a loved one in recovery" or "facing this journey together" can help everyone feel less alone.
Labels are for jars, not people! By choosing kinder words, we can help remove the stigma around substance use and build a culture of empathy.
"There isn’t anyone you couldn’t learn to love once you’ve heard their story." Fred Rogers – American television host (Mr. Rogers), author, producer, and Presbyterian minister.
Let’s commit to speaking with care and respect, helping individuals and families feel seen and valued. With better words, we can help create a better path toward healing and recovery.